My boyfriend is an ***!!! but i love him. what do i do?

My boyfriend use to whip my tears and hold me when I cried. Now he just rolls over and goes to sleep. The fire dept. Comes before anything. Even us! Both of my grandparents died in the past 6 months and we Were supposed to go to there house today to get my share of there stuff. And he goes to a live burn instead. We fight all the time and he cuses at me and hollers at me and tells me o well and whatever. And if I tell him I'm gonna leave he's like if that's what u wanna do. And that's Not what I want to do at all I just want him to care. And show me that he loves me Like he used to. I have this other Guy who I use to date telling me I need to leave him and that he doesn't no why I stay when I'm being walked all over and treated like dirt. And that I deserve to be treated like a queen and that I'm to good for my boyfriend. But I love him soooo much and can't stand the thought of not being with him or him being with someone else. Idk what to do. Plz help!!